From: Eugene Matusov
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Date: 18 Nov 1996
Remote Name: pax-ca4-03.ix.netcom.com
You wrote, "It was frustrating for me when I was helping Laura and her friend because they didn't respond to me unless they had a question or problem."
I understand your frustration. I suggest you to start learning how people (kids and adults) learn how to join a group. I've noticed that many adults start asking question while kids often spend time observing before saying something. Also there is often a tacit negotiation about who is responsible for newcomer joining the group. I want to encourage you to experiment in joining kids' groups. Of course, sometimes you are not welcome, period. So maybe we should also adjust our own expectations and do not expect that we camn always get in. What do you think?